Episode Transcript
[00:00:00] Speaker A: Love versus attachment research.
That's a different thing. Personal perspective.
Correct me if I'm wrong.
[00:01:12] Speaker B: I think deep down you know partnership conditions are strings attached. Yeah.
So unconditional.
Unconditional conditions.
You know, just society, just culture, you know, organizations.
So. Oh, I think different topic.
Conditional haga Unconditional.
Unconditional. Of course. I mean Jsu Kariye marriage which of course unconditional aspect.
Accept conditions. We have parents unconditional possibility.
So conditioned are based expectations. All those things.
So I think unconditional and potential.
[00:03:27] Speaker A: Very beautifully described. Very beautifully described.
Strings attached.
Strings attached.
Possibility.
Possibility.
[00:03:43] Speaker B: Exactly.
Organization. I mean marriage conditions and love versus attachment.
And attachment. Functional dysfunctional.
Functional dysfunctional functionality. Attachment as a attachment is human. The attachment.
So attachment safety security. Attachment.
[00:05:20] Speaker A: Survival.
[00:05:25] Speaker B: Attachment attachment primary caregiver. Nal hundiya Mostly mother Nal hundiya Maji level Mother nal Odi attachment and O Rishta Sada template attachment and discover Kikarnabi attachment functional. Seek a dysfunctional template blueprint and her ma intention.
So for example emotions.
You know, Mary partner Vikafi Hathaka Changini Parma Dasni Parai emotionally revisit Kita and firmament coping mechanism.
That's right. And that Attachment.
Attachment and ohi template play hore.
So Jaspree Jesse Sadi relationship. Exactly.
For example, constantly and school the performance.
Do you see? Just a template situation. But your template is the same, right? So it's an attachment.
Beautiful. Jizayaki attachment.
It's a lot of work. Jeevan Highway.
Not easy.
It's not easy. Lot of work, lot of practice.
But it is possible.
And attachment style. Counseling Attachment style.
[00:10:04] Speaker A: I'm just giving an example. So example.
Because parents different experiences different clash.
[00:10:26] Speaker B: And it's very interesting. Jaspreet JD Template style Sadi attraction compatible.
Not similar but compatible.
So for example husband, wife.
Husband abusive wife. Tolerate Kardisi vary police call compatible.
Because emotions I felt attraction. Butterflies.
It's a very scary path. You know, I have counseled people. Jinnah Lokanu Onna Loka Attraction.
And what is that? A template running after somebody who's not interested in you. Yes, it's a template. And we call it a love. We call it attachment. We call it butterflies. Butterflies.
It's very scary, right?
Glorify garden.
This is the one, right? So that is what we have to Attraction. Love at first sight.
Template secure Riyawa.
Then you'll find somebody similar and compatible. Which is good, you know.
Secure. Which means relationships. You secure. Safe peace. Feel Kar DC So genuine connection. Feel car. They see emotionally Connected feel car they see to see take care.
It was a balance. Then you go out in the world relationship template e.g. neglect for example.
And.
And even if it's suffering, if it's comfortable, you know, that's why there's a lot of abuse people tolerate. That's. That's why there's a lot of relationship that shouldn't work. But they. People live together, you know. So Kite na kite ohi Demagdi JD Normalize template neglect they suffer it's not emotionally availability comfortable and that's all they've known.
Love at first sight and love at first sight Attraction template and love at first sight Attachment at first sight Attachment the template compatibility for example a woman she's a caretaker and then when you have to go back who did you start taking care and love on the name of love.
Maybe a sick mother, you know, maybe emotionally Jadi mother comes over.
So you took the caretaker role. So thought daily attachment Kia ki caretaker, you know, so a attachment the definition thought dibangi are pleasing people Pleasing Emotional.
[00:16:58] Speaker A: Neglect Arranged marriage templates Attraction awareness Attraction at first sight. Attachment at first sight. What about arranged marriages?
[00:17:23] Speaker B: Arranged marriages Interestingly does that make sense, right?
Emotionally available.
Emotionally available template so Sade J template attachment style and Sadi family J arrange attachment style.
You know.
[00:18:06] Speaker A: If this all works like.
[00:18:08] Speaker B: This.
[00:18:11] Speaker A: Marriages partnership JD relationship template compatibility.
[00:18:21] Speaker B: And separation.
Jamie Jada Secure attachment.
Secure attachment.
Not necessarily butterflies feel butterflies anxiety. You know a lot of people don't know Butterfly is a good. It's a anxious feeling. It's a nervousness inside. Right? So Jedi oh Ashley. You feel connected to see secure feelings to see safe feelings and inner relationship.
Secure relationship Unconditional love exists growth the possibility secure attachment because you feel safe. You know safe which grow threat mode.
[00:19:36] Speaker A: To see safe the definition. What do you mean by safe?
[00:19:39] Speaker B: Safe means that I am taken care of.
I am not alone.
It's a two way street, right? That is a secure attachment, right? So Jeta Secure secure relationship Growth flourish Both vadiya relationship and attachment style incompatible attachment style.
So for example attachment style attachment relationship neglect and suddenly to see counseling consciousness this is not normal and I'm not going to do it anymore and look for children and it's known, right? And that's why I think because this is not normal anymore.
This is something, right? Maybe depression and.
[00:21:45] Speaker A: Physical ailment.
[00:21:46] Speaker B: I had a cancer patient.
All she was doing is taking care of people and take care of her responsibility.
That's all she did. And first responsibility.
She was exhausted and one day she was Diagnosed with cancer.
That's right. She said I I'm done. Like I'm on floor exhausted. Right. So attachment style. Life crisis, you know, midlife crisis.
Attachment style.
[00:22:34] Speaker A: Attachment style.
[00:22:41] Speaker B: And sabto best acknowledge.
Attachment style.
Brain normalize.
Right?
Just a piece of decoration.
Neglect, emotionally unavailable partner template.
Although it's like addiction, you know, and people don't leave just because it's dysfunctional. They both close relationship.
It's addiction.
And do you see?
You doubt that type of love because it doesn't make sense to be treated, right?
[00:25:05] Speaker A: Yes.
That's so interesting. So interesting.
Valentine's Day.
[00:25:19] Speaker B: Attachment style.
And stop giving it a name of a love, you know, Criticize Kardava.
Anything that does not make you feel love. Anything. Safety.
That's not the safety. Whether you're a parent, child, relationship, husband, wife, partner safety and j Rishtech safety.
Right?
Someone's got my back.
Child, relationship, husband, wife.
Name of love.
Right. So love should feel very safe and secure to you.
[00:26:32] Speaker A: If it is not, it's not love.
[00:26:34] Speaker B: It's a dysfunctional attachment style then.
And attachment style.
It does require a lot of help.
[00:26:41] Speaker A: Yes, yes.
[00:26:42] Speaker B: To see Mother to Mango, you know, to see and counseling approach videos. Hopefully they help, you know, if you're not attachment style. Badan. I hope our videos and the good news is Jaspreet e badale Jasakte.
[00:27:08] Speaker A: That's the good news. Yeah.
[00:27:10] Speaker B: And I've seen a lot of people attachment style.
Right.
[00:27:16] Speaker A: Palvinder, thank you so much.
[00:27:18] Speaker B: Thank you. Thank you. Jaspreet.
